'Your boss is never your friend': Employee resigns professionally, boss gets petty, rejects personal letter twice

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    Font - Boss flew into a rage because i resigned and rejected my personal letter-twice Background: I've had a great relationship with my boss up until i resigned. I have to serve 2 months notice in my contract (I'm not US based). I've been in this company for 3 years and promoted twice due to positions opening because of turnover and me being in a fast track program.
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    Font - I prepared 2 letters for my boss during my resignation. 1 resignation letter and 1 personal letter to express my gratitude towards him and the company. Tendered the day after getting my variable bonus and my boss flew into a rage saying he had already heard that I would be going to a competitor from his connections weeks ago (I did sign my contract with them weeks back but did not tell anyone about it hence I don't really know how he knew).
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    Font - He said he was extremely disappointed in my selfish behaviour as I had only thought of myself as I resigned after getting my bonus vs not informing him as soon as I signed with the competitor. He said that his reason for accusing me was because it is difficult to fill my position and more time would've been useful and he thought we were closer.
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    Font - I was not expecting this reaction and had actually prepared a handwritten personal letter to him, which I offered to him at the start of our conversation and he told me to keep it.
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    Font - After hearing his accusations, I told him he was the first in the department to know but he said that I must be gullible to think that this news wouldn't reach him. I said that I had only brought up the conversation now as it is a tough one to have and I was thinking of how to have it I had no intentions of harming him or the company.
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    Font - To which he said I should've handled the situation better and had expected more from me but he accepts my resignation letter. I said that perhaps I really handled it wrongly and re-emphasized that I have no bad intentions. I offered my personal letter a second time and he rejected it once again.
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    Font - He sent me an official email at the start of the next working day telling me that while he accepted my resignation, was revoking my WFH privileges, not to delete anything on my laptop and told me to cc 2 other employees in all my emails from now on. I don't understand how I could've handled it better. Was i in the wrong?
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    Font - GBAMiyoo 1 day ago Your boss is never your friend. T325 Reply Share
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    Font - Consistent_Shallot25. 23 hr. ago No one in any position of power above you is your friend.
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    Rectangle - swordmaster006 1 day ago "He thought we were closer"? WTF kinda is that? He's the unprofessional one. 120 Reply Share
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    Font - ClarityLlama OP. 17 hr. ago I didn't think this detail was important but he did also mention to me that it is normal for people to leave companies, it happens all the time and compared that his sons change companies too and as a father he is happy for them if they talk to him about it then briefly mentioned about the company and implied he was the father at the company. Guess that's what he meant. I can't think clearly if I should feel bad because it seems like a strange comparison to me.
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    Font - swordmaster006. 15 hr. ago That is. It's weird and manipulative. Guilt- tripping like he's supposed to be your father? Nah, forget that.
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    Human body - hyundaisucksbigtime 23 hr. ago You handled it professionally. He had a temper tantrum.
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    Font - quast_64 22 hr. ago . Say the same the Boss says when he fires people "Its not personal, Its just buissness" If he can't handle a resignation he should not be leading the company, If he is mad you are hard to replace, he should have done more to keep you happy and well compensated...
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    Font - cste633554 23 hr. ago . It sounds as if your boss is the source of the high attrition rate. Perhaps on your last day you can do him a solid and remind him that people don't quit companies, they quit managers. Maybe he should try turning over a new leaf and stop treating subordinates like !!
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    Font - randomonetwo34567890 20 hr. ago He said he was extremely disappointed in my selfish behaviour as I had only thought of myself as I resigned after getting my bonus I would have asked him, if he would have paid my bonus if I had told him earlier. And would ask him, if he himself would be ok to lose his bonus so that company he's leaving has it easier if he were in your situation. I actually did that once, and the answer I got was "We're not talking about me".
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    Font - TheHungryBlanket · 22 hr. ago I would have lots of fun doing some malicious compliance with the cc request. His inbox is about to burst.
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    Font - county259 22 hr. ago Quit worrying about it. This boss and this job are part of your past. Concentrate on the future. (And you did nothing wrong)

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